Dear reader I have been thinking of late about regret and how the pain of regret can utterly paralyze us and drain our existence of zest and color. Regret hurts. It hurts a lot. It hurts to think about those words spoken and unspoken. Those dreams never reached and those opportunities mishandled. Those actions taken and those not taken. It hurts to remember them and what’s worse are the repercussions that we see all around us. Our lives now seem like a daily reminder of our “failures”. Failures that we seem doomed to live with.
But is this the end?
Dear reader I do not believe it so. I do not believe that we need to live our days regretting and grieving our past. No. I believe that we can move forward. So here is my counsel (if you choose to accept it)
We’ve all done dumb stuff and been grateful to the person who believed in us notwithstanding and helped us up. Be that person to yourself now. Forgiveness, compassion are gifts that you give to not only others but yourself too. You have the power to set yourself free. You can forgive yourself and you should.
Realize that your past does not define You
Terrible things might have done in ignorance and foolishness but the worst thing you can do is to let your past define your present. You are not your past. You shape your situations, your situations do not shape you.
Take a hold of Your now
One of the things about regret I’ve noticed is how it keeps us trapped in the past. Each day is spent in grief over what has happened and the present is largely ignored. But dear reader please note that you are NOT lost in the past. You are here NOW. Your glory, all that it is to be you is NOT buried in the past. You, all of you, is here now. So take a hold of your present and begin making decisions that will shape your life as you desire.
Have you been regretting never taking a particular step? A dream long dormant? Well there is no time like the present. Grieve no more. Start now. Don’t let age or circumstances be a barrier. As long as you are here there is ALWAYS a walk around to your dream
Perhaps you’ve been regretting some words spoken that hurt someone you cared about? There is no time like the present. Seek to make amends if possible.
Perhaps you’ve mishandled a lot of opportunities and can only see how much better your life would have been had you handled them well? You have the present. Opportunities will yet come to you because you are here. Be expectant.
Darling it is time to move forward. So forgive yourself. Take a hold of your present. It is in your hands to shape your future. Live again. You can move forward.
Thank you 🙂